- Parents who could never cooperate while married often find that the holiday season throws them back into the same kinds of arguments and stressful interactions that led to the divorce.
- If the parents make negative comments about each other, fight in the kids’ hearing, or look for the kids to side with them, it’s the kids who suffer most of all
- The key to keeping stress down for the kids during the holiday season is adult flexibility.
Be flexible about dates: Even if your ex tries to make an issue of it, you don’t have to. Focus on your kids’ feelings, not on the date.
Be flexible about traditions. You may want to establish new traditions for your new idea of family. The kids may want to hold onto the way they’ve always done things. Traditions give kids a sense of predictability in an uncertain world.